Playhouse

[Yoyowife]

I think it is time for me to go through with the divorce.

Some of you know my story and some of you don't so I will give a brief recap. My H told me in Oct. 2006 that he wasn't happy and wanted out. He moved out the next day. There was no warning. He of course denied that there was OW. Well, of course there was. I found out in Dec. that he was involved with his married secretary. Come to find out she left her husband the same time that H left me. She served her H with divorce papers a week after they split. They were divorced in July '07. My H didn't serve me with papers until June '07.

I have been very guilty of letting him be a fence sitter. I kept allowing him to come around because I thought he would want to come home.
He would say he wanted to work it out and then he would say he just couldn't do it because it didn't feel right. Sadly, I allowed this to happen several times.

A week before Christmas he told me he wanted to work things out. He was even making plans for the future. We even went car shopping for me! He told OW that we were getting back together and she said she couldn't work for him anymore. This is what I had hoped for all the time. Two days after Christmas, he told me he wanted to proceed with divorce. I just said okay, and didn't try to talk him out of it. Just a week later he was coming around again. Yes, I was weak and I let him. We went out to dinner with friends and we discussed going to a formal ball togther. That was on a Friday night. I did not hear from him the remainder of the weekend.

On Tuesday night our DD16 cheered at a basketball game and he came to that. He was very aloof. I have not heard from him since then.

I know that everyone says you shouldn't spy, but I did last night. He has told me that he wasn't seeing OW anymore, and I just had to know. I drove by her house and his truck was there.

It was exactly what I needed. It showed me that he is still attached to her. All of these months he has flip-flopped between the two of us. I have tried my best, but he has shown me the type of man he is, and it is not the type of man I want in my life.