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[COG]

Craig,

wife says that i am sabotaging her attempts at moving out on her own. why, because i spent 99.00 on a sport coat.

This is the reality that I mentioned in one of my former posts. Your W needs to experience the reality of the changes that are going to happen. The finances are going to get real tight. Allow that to happen. Live your life the right way, and do not feel guilty about that. You made the right purchase, don't cave in to her mental state. Let her feel how she wants to feel about it, and you stand the rock, the man.
It is incredibly important for you to be wise with your money right now, but at the same time, not a doormat. "W, you may think I'm sabatoging your attempt to leave, but I will not do that. You are free to go. I wish you would stay with me, while I work on being the man I need to be, I'm going to miss you. But I need to keep on living too, and moving forward with life. I realize the finances are tight, and I'm being careful about what I buy and I trust you'll be the same.

she says i have been mysterious lately.

Your response, "ya, I've been secretely having an affair with the old woman next door", or "I've been trying to hide the brand new Mercedes that I bought", or "I can't wait until you get your stuff out of her so I can rent your room out". Something light, and fearless but not cocky.

This is definately not a time to go defensive. Just make the right decisions for YOU, and stand your ground. Above all, keep your cool.

God Bless,

COG