Yeah Michelle, I think it is good to have a balance too. Also I can't just sit around waiting for him to call me.
Thanks for the post aimhigh. The problem with talking about the A and how it affected me is that he swears nothing went on. He doesn't understand why I am so upset about it...thus the need for counseling. I just want to scream to him I AM UPSET BECAUSE YOU MOVED OUT OF OUR HOUSE AND IN WITH HER!!! Actually they got a place together, she moved out of where she was and they moved in together...but yet he doesn't get it. I try to let him know how it made me feel that he would reach out to someone else and become so close to someone else. I guess maybe I do approach it wrong...with more of a how could you attitude. I don't think I would hold the A over his head, I just need him to be open and honest about it. And what if he is being honest when he says nothing happened? He says she was like a guy friend to him. He says the only way that I will believe him is if he just says it happened, but he can't do that. He is probably right.
He did tell me he would talk about things if I had a point. He said he didn't want me to just vent to him about everything and keep bringing the same things up. But, the reason I bring the same things up is because I feel like he never answers my questions. Saturday was the first time since probably October that I have even mentioned OW. The only thing I said was that it hurt me that he put so much effort into that relationship, but in our relationship it felt like I was always the one making sacrifices and putting in the effort.
I am just so tired. I hate feeling like this is a game.
