It is amazing how prevalent adulterous themes are in our culture. I'm not so convinced though that these particular artistic accomplisments are imitating life or if life is imitating the art. Hard to tell. Granted having affairs has been around since the age of humans, but I wonder about the degree of acceptance our culture has for it. Almost every blockbuster movie has some sort of A theme in it - even the last Superman had an incident with an A - *poor* Lois Lane had to make a *tough* choice (read this dripping with sarcasm). Last night H and I watched How Green Was My Valley - an academy award winning movie from the 40's - great movie, but one of the characters married a man she didn't love and spent her time contemplating leaving her current H for the man she loved - crazy. Even old black and white movies are permeated with the theme.

I think because we, as a culture, see it all around us, all the time, and hear it all the time, we begin to believe that everyone is doing it, it's natural, it's human, it's OK. What I wouldn't do for a movie in which the A goes horribly wrong (like the majority of them do) and the married couple works it out and everyone lives happily ever after...hmmm...

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I've been thinking lately that a trip may spice up our sex life. So yesterday I casually said to H, why don't we ever travel anymore? I used to really like traveling with you. And he said, I decided that we wouldn't travel anymore because you really don't like it. ****gasp****While I didn't gasp out loud I could barely breathe in my head - WHAT???!!! I was screaming inside. But instead I said, Sweetness, I love traveling with you. This conversation could have gotten really ugly - I was upset with his decision to unilaterally make the decision of not traveling anymore - and I expressed that kindly. He apologized and the day moved on. In the past a conversation like that really would have ruined the whole day - I was able to keep my emotions in check and move forward. It was nice.

Hope everyone is doing well!

Last edited by ediemarie; 01/28/08 03:09 PM.
Me: 34
H: 39
M: 7 yrs
H A 12/05-8/07

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