I think your plan sounds good. I don't consider it a positive that she talks about OM in a negative light. I think she would obviously do that with you...why would she talk about the good stuff?
Maybe you don't have to shut her down when she talks about OM, but you don't have to be Mr. validate and listen either. You can be more like, "hmmmm", and leave it at that. To me it's a kick in the teeth to hear about it all the time. It's good that you are her outlet, but it doesn't seem to be going anywhere. Probably won't until she gives up on the fantasy. Maybe she'll get her act together after the fantasy implodes, but you never know, maybe she won't ever get there.
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