I think he may be trying to shock you into begging him to stay - otherwise why hurt you with this crap - he might as well just get on with the d and let that be an end to it. I think there is much more to this than your H's mouth is actually saying as regards your M. He might even be one of those that has to go right to the D court and then pulls back but he sure doesn't sound like someone committed to a D. IMHO he is CRYING out for attention - please think on this.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
