Anyway, I had dinner with my XMIL last night. Interacting with her always revives my fused feelings a bit but I don't want to kill the relationship because we've been good friends and she's my kid's grandmother etc. She's pretty much on my "side" in the divorce even though she loves her son because she knows that he manifests as the same sort of dickhead as his father.
What I thought of was the utter lameness of the fact that at one point my marriage reached a point of fusion where I thought our only problem was lack of sex and my 2bx thought the only reason for the lack of sex was the fact that I could stand to lose some weight. Right around the time I joined this BB we had a discussion in which I was saying that I was going to make the effort to take off the lbs. and he said "If you do lose the weight, why would you want to stay with a chump like me?". Being a "nice" person, my reply was along the lines of "Because I love you and you're not a chump etc. etc." In retrospect, I can see so clearly that my reply should have been "Good thinking. You better work on being less of a chump while I work on the weight loss. In fact, you better go on the mega-dechumpifying program because I tend to believe that my task will be a bit simpler than yours." Of course, really I should have taken two steps back and asked myself some tougher questions about what the "real" problem in my relationship might be.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
