How do you undo detachment?

[WAS32]

Hey there LT, just catching up on your sitch. You are in quite the sitch. You are getting a lot of good advice from the people in here though. I really understand the whole telling friends thing. One of the first things that H said to me after he confessed was that he doesn't want everyone to know that I have a cheating H. He said it will make him just run away again. But of course all his friends knew about it. I just felt that this was a guilt thing. You have to have people to talk to. We would all go crazy if we didn't. Your true friends will stick besides you no matter what anyways.

I do still think that he needs to completely end it with the OW before he can start anything with you again. You can't be half in and half out. You can't focus on your M if he is thinking that he has a back up plan with OW. It needs to be done because he wants it done. There is no room for maybe's when it comes to the OW. And I think right now as long as you are detached from him when ML go for it. he needs to attached to you again and sometimes this helps. But don't put yourself in a sitch that is going to bring you that horrible pain you would have first felt when he left.

This is only my small opinion. Sending you lots of hugs!!!