Trixi movin' on up...

[Trixi]

Hey guys!
I don't have anything new in my sitch, per se.

H came over last night for dinner, movie and video games. He brought his new (to him) jeep that he got for 4wheeling/sharing with his son. He also brought his guitar and 8 track recorder with some songs he and the band had recorded. Good stuff.

I can't remember the timeline for the next statements, so I am just going to write them down as I recall them:
-He said that in 2005 when he told me about his "plan" to leave, he had made up his mind, but I was so upset he thought he should "try". But looking back, he can see that he didn't really try. (I told him I knew that, but I felt vindicated that he finally admitted it to me (prior he always said that he *did* try.)
-He said that he thought going to Thailand (or a trip) would be good for us, but acknowledged that it's a bit odd given our situation.
-Reiterated that he loves me and will always "be there" for me; that he's always my friend.
-Said that he thinks he needs to help his son and that since he and I butt heads over what to do, this is a good thing for him to do on his own. (I agree.)
-Doesn't know where we are headed. Did the old "If we're meant to be together, we will be" thing. (I told him that I understand he is confused and I am certainly not pressing for any concrete answers.)
-Thinks it's good for both of us to become more independent of each other.
-He told me to research when the best time of year is to go to Thailand. (It's NOT in the summer, FYI.) I found out that Costa Rica would be a great option in May. (He ended up suggesting May as a possible time to travel.)

A bandmate, who is 25, is seriously considering moving in with H. So, H could have a 25 yo male and a 21 yo male (son) living with him within the next few months. H seems to be very happy with his bachelorhood. He does miss me, but obviously not enough to make any changes towards the marriage.

He did stay over.

After re-reading what I wrote, I think I sound like an idiot. OTOH, over in the MLC forum they say that you should be understanding and their "friend" while they go thru whatever it is they need to go thru.

I don't know. My "update" sucks.