Ok I am going to come clean here...
First.... I.C.... Thanks Ya I know Saffie can be bossy sometimes


“I haven't read your entire situation so forgive me for my lack of knowledge but your wife and OM....I'm assuming that it's done?? And now I assume that you're doing the DBing, working on yourself, etc.... in hopes of her coming around and life will be good?”


Wow you assumed nothing this is right on... at least I know the physical part is over.... don’t know if they still talk I have not looked at the phone bill in months..


But I'm reading your posts and I'm sensing a lot of pent up negativity towards your wife....understandably so!

If this is showing it must be true. I don’t realize it...but actions speak louder that words so I must be sending that message out...

Then one day I get "THE CALL"...she thought she had made a mistake and wanted to try and work on us. Maybe we could have worked things out, but all the negative thoughts I had about her finally won out and swayed my opinion or attraction to her...I declined.

IC I am so sorry, I HOPE this does not become the case with me... I really don’t think it is at this point. But........ I have not pursued or talked R since October....... I do have the feeling that if I do and if it is taken negatively then yes I may move on...


I guess what I'm trying to say is this...I know you might have ill feelings towards your wife, she's the enemy right? Don't lose sight of what it is you're trying to get back to...the positives. Give the positives feelings towards her equal playing time because there might come a time when SHE is ready to work on the two of you and you won't see a point in it because you've lost sight of what drew you to her in the first place.

Thanks I just me print this out and put it on my desk. (Change a few words so if W sees it she won’t know it is directed towards her.

Ok for everyone I did not e-mail this is what happened to me last night... I little cut and paste and a few deletions...

Security went great... no big issues one lady had way too much to drink when she left... So I made sure she had a ride... anyway ... There was this 'friend" of w cousin. She has Blond wavy hair and the most beautiful blue eyes. She had a little too much to drink.. she knows I am married. her husband passed away 2 years ago..... anyway she wanted to buy me a beer and I told her I was working and could not drink..... So after a while she came outside to have a cigarette and just hung around me talking....... after the event was over I went inside to talk to W cousins and some people I knew there and she was all over me..... She wanted me to take her to the store to buy me some beer and her some wine and then go to her house and "hot tub".... I told her I did not have a suit and she said who cares about suits........I was really thinking of going.... (This would have made Mark the king of no sex.... If it counts because she was not my wife... It’s been over 1 year OMG Anyway. I didn't have anything to drink so this at least made me think with a straight head..... I so wanted to go.....but when she was not looking me kind of slipped into the crowd and told Cousin that friend had too much to drink and please apologize to her but I had to go.... and I left...... But....... She was standing out front when I left and watched me leave... Don't know if she knows my Jeep...... I so wanted to go with her but did not ONLY because I am "married".... ..........I am having a triple Jack Daniel over the rocks right now..... Good thing son is here because I just may have told W tonight that I don't want to be married....Why is she making me close between hurting my son and being happy???? How can she sooo easily sleep with some guy and here I am Faithful for over a year without any Sex from her and I still can't "cheat"... I have no reason to remain faithful do I? 24 hour rule I know hopefully in the morning my PMA will be back but.... to be honest with you........If the situation had happened a little different... like she was not a friend of Cousin..... And I had a little to drink..... I could have very easily been sitting in a hot tub right now....I could not even tell her I was happily married....... I could not tell her that W and I are having problems and I don’t think it would be a good idea if I went over because if I did that the “cat would be out of the bag.....

Ok remember that was last night........ So I have not said anything to W...... But..... Don’t know how many of you remember but my truck threw a lifter, It’s do for smog and Since the lifter went bad I was just going to park it until I get back from vacation.... Well I did try some things and added some stuff to it but it did no good...I had it parked at my mom’s house and Saturday started it up and brought it home still had a bad lifter....... WELL today when the phone guy cam over I went out to move my truck ............No Noise....... The lifter unstuck itself......
I am not a religious man. This is probably why I am in the situation I am in but......... I think HE may be telling me I made the right decision last night...... Don’t know when or what I am going to tell Wife about our R and me not being happy.....I have 20 MORE DAYS till the Vegas trip so I still have time to think of something....


Dr.Love

And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know