We'll our dinner was positive I think. We were at dinner about 3.5hrs. We did argue a bit, but we aired a bunch out. We talked a ton. However, she is not wavering on her position that she wants to be apart. She is confused though saying she 'wants to be alone', 'i am afraid to be alone' 'i need to be independent', 'i want someone to take care of me', 'i want to be happy', 'i want to be in love'...how about those, I'm sure no one has heard any of those before.....
We did have two nice long hugs after dinner. And we have gotten along well all weekend. This is a positive in the fact that we did not really event talk hardly at all the past few weeks. We have been at each others throats. So to get along like this is a surprise for me. But...she is continuing down her path of her petition to have me leave the house, etc. That part is not good.
I wrote her a small note yesterday thanking her for coming to dinner and making a few points I made at dinner. She doesnt think anything I change will last more than 6 months. My points were that the kids were a great motivation to experience change, and that we have really figured out what we both want and we should try to live that, as well as think about the long term. I also pursued a bit. I know that may not sound right, but I thought in talking to her at dinner she was liking this from the outside. She seemed to enjoy other guys showing interest in her, so I think maybe I need to show much more appreciation and complement more, even though that could be pursuing. Also with the note I passed on a couple articles from this site.
So...this is what I get on an email today;
"What do you want to do for the next few weekends? I read your stuff...thanks for the nice note. I still need time apart...I know that scares you but I can't make any decisions right now...I'm sorry. I appreciate all of the effort you want to put into us...I would love to do the same but am not there. I want to be a great wife and mom....We can talk more later if you want."
I think there are some positives in here...its the first time I have heard her say she wants to be a great wife and mom...too bad its not with me. Not sure what she means by not making any decisions right now as it seems she has made the ultimate decision.
