But Appleroad...you are saying that you dont subscribe to this approach? Should we in fact be reaching out to our partners?
Ali, I don't think there is any 'should' to it. People do whatever they can to preserve their important relationships. I simply never resonated to the conventional wisdom about MLC spouses. "Leave them alone and they'll come home, wagging their tails behind them" just didn't do it for me, mostly because of the time frame involved for MLC to run its' course. I'd rather go out and join the MLCer who jumped the pasture fence (as long as there's no active OW) and have a relationship with him and not be overly concerned whether he's ready to come home or not. I'm not trying to talk anyone into doing anything which doesn't make sense to them, only to mention that this is the course I have chosen and so far, so good.
