btw, I didn't mean to imply it was solely your fault your husband left merely that we have our part to play in it to some degree and I think if we are honest many of us had failings and certainly alot of us had rose coloured specs on when recalling our hapyy marriages because obviously our spouses didn,t feel the same. Your h may well have a multitude of "hang ups" to deal with BUT we still need to look at us,because if they did and then they just walk well we certainly missed the signs.
