"There is no "woe is me", just frustration and hurt, like everyone else". Thats good , you now have found a common ground-yes we have all been frustrated and hurt.
I agree "this isn't all about me" but some of it is like 50% Yes it is his journey and h is making it at this moment in time without you. BUT it is still your journey too and it is about how you handle your part of the journey whilst alone that is important. You also know nothing of my family relationships but I was going on the fact that you know h,s brother yet did not feel you could contact him or ask about your erant husband in an earlier post-I apologise IF I got that wrong, but I am sure all of us here would have swallowed are pride or whatever and moved hell and highwater to find out from anyone what actually had happened to are missing husbands. I am really sorry you are hurt and frustrated we know how that feels and all the emotions inbetween but I still maintain that we have to work on us and let them go. We actually have no choice and no control over what they do. What happened about the suprise gift you were planning did you do it or make contact? how did that go? Have you had any communications has he actually told you he is never coming back,loves another,was never happy, he has a new life any of the things so many waw's say and if so how did you react or reply.
