SPM- I'm beginning to understand the need to REALLY pull back as all I'm doing is pushing right now. I pretty positive she doesn't want a divorce, but unless I pull the 180, she'll take off running.
As for the texting, I've decided to be consistently inconsistent and not nearly as verbose or wordy with her in our conversations. That will keep me in control and help me to avoid becoming too co-dependent and stuck in her emotional inconsistencies.
I'm also going to give her very little about my therapy sessions even when she tries the grilling of "so, what did you and T speak about today?" or "tell me what you went over." I've been just letting her know it all because I'm not hiding anything, but I think if I'm a bit more mysterious, it will be better.
As for involving the T, I just finished the DB book while I was in DC this past week, so I'll need to talk with him and bring it up when I see him on Tuesday.
Got to run to Chuck E Cheese for Grace to have some fun!
