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Cinders,
I've never hidden the fact that I'm not "standing" for my marriage. After he left the second time, acting quite insane, I shut the door on reconcilation. You see, I took my rose colored glasses off early on after the way he was behaving and realized that even if he were to recover from his meltdown, he would never be someone that I would want to share the rest of my life w. For 25 years, I overlooked many of his flaws and made excuses for his passive-aggressive behavior and once he finally left, I came to realize that I couldn't please him no matter what I did or said. I was always trying to make him happy and just couldn't do it. When when he walked out the door, I was a total mess for a while, but in the end, I realized it was best that we never reconciled because too much damage had happened. He always said that he would never return, so I took him at his word and moved on w/my life. He never made any moves to reconcile and in fact, two years after the divorce, he married the HO. Is he happy? I seriously doubt it. I'm getting more unknown name/unknown phone number calls, cell phone numbers and other strange numbers, crank calls, etc. than I have ever had since he's been gone and more so since August both at home and at work. I have him on video coming here and taking things out of the yard and moving things around to mess w/my head. Is that a person who is happy? Nope. He apologized for his behavior towards me throughout the marriage, but never for the time he walked out and behaved irrationally.

I did what I had to do in order to survive. I may not be standing for my marriage, but I will not discourage others from doing so. There are so many here that have a good chance of reconciling w/their spouses and I hope that they do. Am I a bitter person? Nope, I'm just happy that I didn't allow the MLC monster to swallow me up.