I had an interesting night last night. We had all gone out to dinner, the whole family, and on the way home, I turned on the music and was kind of dancing to it in the car, just being silly. H started dancing too. He was making jokes, too & sharing about his day with me. It was the first time he really acted just like he was before the affair; it was probably even before then so it's been many months ago really. It was so cool!
I went off and did my own thing when we went home, but later last night, H took a break from working on his porch, and was watching TV, and I went in there for a break too. I told him you don't have to leave I'm just going to be here for a few minutes and then go to bed. I sat down next to him and he didn't move, which he normally would have done in the past, was surprised he didn't jump up and move to the other couch. We sat and had a great time again, talking and laughing, but I did leave after 10 minutes and went to bed (didn't want to push it).
H did not go see the OW this am like he usually does Sun. am, but did go to church with us. The question of the morning they always ask one, was What one thing do you want and not have? I said I have everything; there's nothing I want. And H said Serenity." And I said how do you get that? and he said "I don't know" and he just looked so miserable right then. (I am guessing having an affair with a married woman with kids is not the way to do that but I of course didn't say that???)
But later that day he made sure to mention about our future apart, so he still is planning on divorce...but today has been relatively good. I took the kids shopping and H just left to run the dog, and he says he will be home in time for dinner which if true doesn't leave enough time for him to see the OW today which would be the first time in a long time that he has gone a day without seeing her (but I'm not holding my breath or anything!)
Does anyone have any comments on these strange events? Am I suddenly DB'ing correctly or something? And if so what do you think I am doing right and should keep doing? What do you think is happening? Is DB just starting to work in my case and I shouldn't get excited? Any insights in what's going on? (I've had mostly negative stuff going on lately you know so I don't know how to handle this positive stuff!) Am I doing the right things or anything I should be doing? Any advice appreciated! Karen43
