Newsflash for WolfPack

[Kettricken]

It behooves the mind that wishes to reach for the cookie to weigh whether or not acting on that wish is good for the health and long term goals of the organism as a whole, hopefully leading to the 'conscious control of actual behavior'.

Caveat: I'm not in the "open market", so I can afford to be high-minded about all this. And I can understand the drive to get some tangible proof of your sexual desirability considering the number STBX did on you. (I described his behavior to S.; his one word response: "Dickhead".) And I get that the quickest path to sexual validation (and manhandling) is "give the customer what they want".

Still, this whole "marketplace mentality" as applied to one's sexuality really skeeves me out. It's not like a detachable appendage; for your sexuality to mean anything, it should manifest as a seamless, unique facet of who you are, without undue reference to societal standards or typical male preference (even assuming there is such an animal.)

I get trying on different sexual personae. But fine tuning your sexuality in appearance and practice to up your "purchasing power" seems quite inauthentic, and ulimately counterproductive. What a constructed sexual self is worth in the open market is totally irrelevant if you're still at all interested in attracting a man who will love you for your pilgrim soul.

JMO. And really, I hope you have fun with Chortling Man.