PS, I can understand your wanting your H to empathize with what you're going thru regarding the trust issue. It seems like in an ideal world your H would be able to face the consequences of his actions and listen to your worry. His difficulty in being in those moments with you, indicate avoidance on his part. He is missing out on the potential for healing moments between you two. It would take courage for him to stay with you when you bring up this topic.
Of course you have a responsibility in managing and staying with your feelings. Worrying implies thinking about the future. There is a line between thinking and rumination. Identify the feeling, be aware of how your mind is reacting to it, and decide if you're staying with or trying to escape the feeling.
You can decide if the feeling merits a talk with your H or not. But it should be done with intent, not out of reactivity.
This practice continues for each of us, moment to moment, day to day.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
