I'm grateful for your insight, support, and analysis. I have one last one from my Friday conversation w/ my W I'd like to throw at you to see what you think.
As I've mentioned before, we were talking, she was angry, I didn't get loud or upset, but I also stood up for myself and didn't back down (not in the DB doing a 180 manuscript). Anyway, she is angry, sad, or both and wants to end the call, which I do.
I then am able to chat with my therapist for a 1/2 hour to get grounded and kicked in the rear for the things I did incorrectly during the phone conversation.
In any event, roughly 2 hrs later, the W texts me with some playful message about the "dog still smelling like a puppy."
I text something back (probably shouldn't have, correct?) and mention that my therapist wanted to make sure I told her hello from him (My therapist is a great guy who knows us both and thinks we can repair our marriage in time).
I immediately get a text back asking "how often do you talk to him?"
I replied telling her it is usually just during our weekly sessions, but sometimes I'll call him once or twice outside of session, depending on what I'm dealing with. I ended the text with a simple, "Why?"
I got NOTHING from her for the rest of Friday and all day Saturday until I returned home at 9 pm. She was weird last night and "barricaded" her bedroom door so I couldn't get in.
Ok, is the happy to sad turn-around because she is freaked out that I'm working hard on fixing me or is she pissed at me talking to my therapist more than she works with hers? Is she pissed that my relationship with my therapist may be better and more productive than hers?
I know it is 100% speculation, but maybe you have something similar or another "knee jerk" call, because so far, you two have been right on the money for me.
