All Hope is lost/Help - Part 2

[seekpeaceofmind]

Well, clearly we each have to look at our own contributions to problems in our Rs. But, we shouldn't take on the whole blame either. A reasonable person might think your H's timing for wanting to take an extravagant trip was insensitve and maybe even selfish. Maybe you didn't handle it as well as you could have - don't know. It's easy for him to argue that he would have supported you in a similar situation, since that wasn't put to the test. I wouldn't think that your objections to the trip were smothering. I know that in my own sitch I didn't understand my H's need for space and time apart - and he didn't articulate them so now here we are, miles apart. It's good to look back and learn from the past, but it takes two to make it work and to make it fail and if he was harboring resentment, it was up to him to bring it up in a constructive way. I guess this is a long-winded way of saying, accept your own responsibility, but don't be too hard on yourself.