Hey I wanted to comment on this post because something similar came up with me and the W when we talked on Friday night while I was in DC.
She was pissed at me (go figure as it is always and completely my fault, correct?) and as I was trying to be a good listener, I asked her to be specific about what has made her so angry. She began to rant about our finances and the debt we have (which is a mortgage at 5.35% and an equity line at prime -1.25% --> These are GREAT rates and she has NOTHING to worry about, but yet, she does).
In any event, I let her go on (and on, and on, and on) and the next day I e-mailed her and stated "I understand that finances are something that really make you nervous, so you can take over all of the finances for us if you would like. In fact, now would be a great time for that transition because I have to clear out all the files for taxes. I can begin to work on this with you when I get home."
Her response...I still haven't had one yet and don't expect to.
The verdict seems obvious to me -- if she takes over the finances, she'll have nothing to be bitter at me for.
This is one of the reasons I'm still fighting and won't quit because deep down, I just can't believe she wants out. She is messed up in the head right now and doesn't know what she wants, but a dissolved marriage isn't really it.
You guys are embolding me to stick to my guns on the 180 process and hang in there. It is a LONG road already and I'm sure it is going to get longer.
