Grace,

I'm guessing my best bet here is to detach and pull a 180. If I put the focus squarely on me and not on her or our marriage, she'll be forced to notice.

My guess is that she'll do nothing or be nasty at the beginning, but if I can pull this off for a couple of weeks, I think she'd begin to come around.

I haven't heard your story, but are you in full 180 mode right now? If so how is it working? If not, what are you struggling with in your marriage?

Thanks again for the insight. I think she's looking to deny and blame me as well, but it is always very helpful to know you are on the right track when other people can validate and confirm your thoughts and suspicions.


M:38; D: 6
Divorce Final: 10/6/08