Hi Kalni! I was thinking the same thing, your H could be depressed. My BF has also been saying "I'm tired" every time I speak to him and he too looks awful, very tired and drawn and friends comment on it to me. Might explain why they have "flipped" as they have. Its not so much tired even, as "cant be bothered" with anything, which is maybe why your H didnt go to the party? Being tired is one thing, but we can all pick ourselves and get going if theres a good reason, but you cant be bothered to if you're depressed.
As for the sister-in-law, I totally empathise. I have been there for my MIL for years, especially when her partner of 22 years walked out on her overnight for OW (!). I was on the phone to her night after night and it went on for a year. Since this happened, I have spoken to her afew times, and we cried, but shes never once phoned me! And I think, right, so now I see your true colours, after all the time I invested in helping you, because I wanted to help you, you were in pain...it is unbelievable how egocentric, or maybe even selfish, some people can be.
This type of trauma really makes you appreciate the kindness in people, and make you see those that are unable to give of themselves, when you really need emotional support....
You do sound remarkably positive though, although that doesnt mean to say you are not lonely and miss him like crazy. What else can you do though, but keep going? We cant let them beat us!
