Maybe sometimes anger IS an appropriate reaction, even for a while? I dont know. Anger can make you take action maybe? Or make you fight back, as in a survival way... one someone hurts you that much? I cant talk..I;ve been completely unable to get angry! I think people around me are surprised by that. I think I would agree with Essie, that I have this feeling, rightly or wrongly, that anger is a negative destructive emotion. Maybe what you're talking about Beth is being more assertive? Not angry? Stating what your needs are is about asserting your needs, anger can sometimes backfire and prevent you getting what you need..? Although, how do you stand up for what you need from someone who isnt even phoning you? I dont know, really, I dont !
Struggling with this one today, as I suppose I am a tad angry today that my BF walked away without even trying one little bit. I think thats the same in your sitch isnt it Essie? He just WA?
