"He said several times that he didn't want to be divorced...but he couldn't expect me to sit around and wait for him to snap out of it."
well,that sounds like someone who has low self-esteem, they dont feel that you would sit and wait for them, or maybe hes testing you? Is he looking for reassurance? It doesnt sound like he wants out... I know how you feel in that he wont blame you, its maddening! My BF said the same, this isnt about you, this is all my doing, I really dont think its got anything to do with the way you are or behaved. In a way I found it frustrating because we couldnt progress, it meant he completely shut off to any R talk. Its just, this is the way it it. Its good your H has gone as far as see a counsellor and admit he has "issues". I'm not sure that once someone has gone through a crisis like this, as long as does learn from it, theres less likelihood of it happening again?
