Help, it seems my 35 year old wife is in MLC #11

[missmyfriend]

Imageer, I believe that is possible. In fact, I have thought about that for a year that what prompted my W to leave was when I told her that I could not accept an A with the OP. I will say though that with the confusion, if she was alone with the OP, the talk between them would probably have caused her to leave anyway. I would not second guess your decision although you probably aren't. You are probably just making an observation.

I believe you did the right thing. If you accept an A she is then putting you on the path to accepting it and you are both on a slippery slope. I think you stand a much better chance at restoring your M and your family by setting appropriate moral boundaries.

On a positive note, if she left to have an A with the OP plus did not like being told she could not have an A, then she did it in "anger" and was rebelling. If she moves through these emotions, she may realize that you were right in taking that stance. Her return will be with the knowledge that As can never happen again and that the family is it.

Just my two cents.