Could this be a pattern? Long suffering LD spouse eventually leaves the marriage for a sexual affair. Sniffs like an esteem issue.
In my wife's case, I think she needed to validate her own sexuality -- to know that she was still beautiful and sexy, and not a frigid woman. After 15 years of rejection and a less and less frequent SL, I finally stopped initiating altogether, and then finally stopped even giving her compliments about her appearance. It was a recipe for disaster, as some folks over on the SSM board tried to warn me, but I just hurt too much to keep giving her what SHE needed, when she wasn't giving me what I needed.
So, she used another man to find out if "I still got it."
