I don't want any contact with him for a long time, unless he is making a serious effort (which is highly unlikely), so I cant see this ever working out.
This is interesting to hear from you and isn't it interesting that you said that? To me, it isn't about anger. To me, it is about taking a stand for what you will and will not put up with. Taking a stand for yourself! Putting yourself first. Sometimes, with ladies like us, it is abnormal to express anger and when we do, we are somewhat ashamed of it (why you called it being "negative"). But, really, you aren't being negative! You are putting your needs first and there is nothing wrong about that and it is good to hear you "get angry" and stand up for yourself!
You are realizing what you need from H and that is GOOD.
H & I, both 32, together since 18. *M 7/03, A since 9/06. Bomb 7/07, H ended it w/ OW 9/08 * Agreed to D 6/09...very hard *D 8/10 * At peace, have become great friends w/ X-H and his new GF
