If I really think about it, I think it is possible that W never really wanted to leave. She wanted me to just be ok with her having an A with an OW. She actually suggested that when she had the one time A more than a year before the bomb.
Did she think/say it was going to be a temporary thing and that's why she suggested it? I hope she's getting out of it, and sees problems in her R with OP too so she sees her share in any complaints that she might have had about your M.
