Well, that is one thing about my H is that he has never blamed anything on me. He has said from day on and also said it in counseling that none of this is my fault. He said it was his personal issues. I almost wish he would say that I did something...so that I could work on it. He just says to please not think I could have done anything different, he just has issues.
I did tell him yesterday that I didn't understand his infatuation with OW. He told me that he always thought of her as a guy friend. I don't know if I have mentioned it on this thread, but he swears up and down she is a lesbian. He said that the newness of that relationship ("friendship" as he calls it) wore off very quickly. He said he still talks to her but not anything like he was. He says he doesn't really call her and they only talk when she calls him.
I guess I thought the R talk would go different. I had expectations....no more expectations! I will let him take the lead on that. He told me he felt like divorce was just so cold...I told him it was. He said several times that he didn't want to be divorced...but he couldn't expect me to sit around and wait for him to snap out of it.
Anyway, I will drop R talks for now. Hopefully we will have a good time on my B'day. I think it is a big step that he is wanting to do something special for me.
