imLIN thanks for sharing your story with me and for your advice. Your situation also sounds very familiar. Maybe I can try that and talk to his doctor. I can so tell he feels like crap about himself. I admit I don;t think about him as much as I think about what I am missing these days. Then the resentment builds. I am at a point where I think maybe I just can't do this anymore. I am not getting any younger. I like to make love and this has been lacking for 10 years. Maybe you can relate but it is hard to be attracted to a low drive spouse. At first it was a challenge. Then I just wanted to work hard to change things. Honestly I spent so much time thinking about this situation for years. Now with everything else that happened I am wore down. I am putting myself first and thinking about what I need. But in the process I lost attraction to him.
Don'tget me wrong in some ways he is trying still. But it's not enough. It's not what I need right now. I have never been this confused and just messed up in the head. I hope this is just a faze I am going through.
