Went for a long drive tonight because, well, I really can't stand being around 'P' and they were watching 'chick flix' tonight.
Lot's to think about. a couple things have been sticking in my head.
Thinking about W and how she deals with problems. Two things happened the past year. First, she had problems with he 'co-leader' of her girl scout troop. The other woman was a controlling B*tch and W tried (weakly) to cooperate with her. I suggested she take some control but she instead let this woman walk all over her. Eventually she 'had enough of her' and resigned as co-leader. Half the troop quit because the girls didn't like that woman either.
Second, she has been co-vp of the band boosters this year. The previous VP's are controlling women who seem to like to withhold information about how to run events and fundraisers so that she and the other VP will not do as 'great' a job as these women did in the previous years. Then they get to swoop in and fix it all.
I keep telling her to be more assertive but she doesn't and keeps getting blindsided by these women.
she also has similar problems with her co-vp, who doesn't do the work that is assigned to her in a timely manner.
On a different topic. This keeps bothering me. AmyC said "When will someone be afraid THEY may lose FRANK?"
It bothers me because I've been so compliant, so willing to come back like a puppy after being kicked. My W has never had to be afraid that she might lose ME. Just that she might not be 'safe' or 'cared for' by me. When she doesn't feel 'safe or cared for' and it's stressful, she doesn't care if she loses me, it becomes all about her being 'happy'.
But, I'm worth keeping. Even SHE knows that. But apparently she's not afraid of losing me.
