Still getting a lot of old wounds picked at while her friend is here. The 'comforting' she does for W, the hugs, the sitting and stroking her hair.
Frank, come on. They do this in front of you? This is not normal friend behavior. Little Ms. P is not so innocent. she has sexual designs on your wife. Don't underestimate it.
They have always been this way. 'P' likes men but is very unattractive. I think this is more of a 'motherly' thing that she does with W. 'P' is the manager of a preschool and is very kid oriented. It's always seemed weird to me though. They have been friends for like 12 years.
Still, sometimes I have wondered about that level of 'closeness'. I personally have never known women who are that 'close' without being lesbians. It has always made me uncomfortable - like she is trying to pull her away from me. I don't think it's sexual, I think it's some other reason.
I realize tonight from observing 'P's actions and words that she came for the weekend to 'help W' get through it. As you may recall, W has a difficult time when I'm not being responsive to her 'niceness' towards me and when I do a 180 she goes into 'Frank is being a jerk - got to get a lawyer now so I can get this done!'.
So, remember that thursday I said I was NOT going to dinner with 'P' and the girls, that WE were going, just our family, and that D17's boyfriend was invited because I LIKE him.
Well, now 'P' has to come to save W from 'big bad Frank'. So she's stayed the whole weekend.
And W has been under her 'care' the whole time. 'P' has of course been super duper nice to me. One day my daughters will understand the role she has played in each of our breakups by not supporting the family or the marriage, but instead pulling W out of the marriage when W wants to bail.
I'm still responsible for my role. But W has created a support group that is not supportive.
