Ah, the high road. How I have become a master navigator of that particular path. The high road is much tougher because the destination is much sweeter my dear. You will never regret rising above the manure and walking the shakey bridge, never.
I remember chewing the inside of my cheek bloody to keep from calling MOW or her H.
Kept walking the high road when my H told me some of the things MOW said about me. I had never met her, didn't know her. The only thing she knew about me was what my H told her.
Kept trudging on when MOW bought clothes for my 19 year old daughter...cheap stuff burns quickly by the way.
Held my head high when MOW asked to meet with me and I agreed. I never felt more powerful in my life than during that 2 1/2 meeting, it was incredible. MOW kept saying "you are not at all like I imagined"...translation, he obviously lied about you.
When you get closer to the other side, you will begin to reap the benefits of your poise and grace. At the end of the day, you will always be able to look at yourself in the mirror with love.
Country roads are always slower, rougher and scarier but the scenery is breathtaking!
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." -Eleanor Roosevelt. M-42, H-42. M-22yrs, together 27yrs, Sep 5yrs. D-22, S-18 I'm a survivor
Punk - When my H and I were at the MC for one of our three sessions, H said he was talking to a friend about our situation and the MC said, why would you do that? Why wouldn't your talk to your wife about it. H was silent. I have had so many people come up to me and try and talk to me. I am courteous, but I don't discuss it. I have one friend, bless her, that I dump on...and, of course, all of you. But I think he has been more free with his talking....
UD, we may be off on our weekends...both weekends that you mentioned, I have the kids......
Shades - no new job yet, just someone who is interested. I am going to meet with more people tomorrow. I am cautiously optimistic about this - I am trying not to get too excited....
Tipper - I think that taking the high road will always work out for us in the long run. We may end up divorced, but I will always know that I did the right thing...not the easy thing, but the right thing. I will read about your situation this weekend - hopefully I can catch a breather from this week....work, kid's projects that I have to run to the craft store every minute, games, other activities.....I have been dropping into bed every night this week!
Peace - and too small to boot.....what an image. They really can't see themselves clearly, can they?
Thanks TTH! Yes, very overdressed for a middle school game.
Wow. I need to go and read your past posts. You appear to be the definition of dignity and class.
Buying clothes for my kids would be very, very difficult for me. I need to prepare myself because I know it will come at some time...any interaction by anyone that he gets involved in will be very, very hard for me. And I don't care for cheap...and I mean the clothes...although it can apply to the OW as well.....
UD - I have my kids this weekend....do you? I got messed up at Christmas because H went away on his weekend, so he got them the following weekend.....
What a day.
I went for the second interview. I am 99.9% sure that I will get this job. I just have to iron out the compensation aspect. But they wanted to know how much notice I would need to give, what items I would need when I started, etc.
It is ideal. They asked if I would consider part time, which is what I do now. I explained that I will need benefits in about a year. They said no problem. They understand that I have kids and said they can be flexible.
It is perfect.
I cried when I left. For two reasons....
First, my FIL has been unbelievable in all of this. He is the CEO where I am now. When he first found out about the D, he called me. Not my MIL (who my FIL would normally say call her and work it out), but my FIL - who hates dealing with emotional issues...or any other kinds of issues for that matter. But he called me and told me that he loved me and said that he would always have a job for me...if I was uncomfortable going into work with H, he would let me work from home. I feel that I am betraying him. I know that he will understand. But he has been wonderful to me.
Second.....up until now, my H has taken all of the steps to move away from me. This is the first step that I have taken to move away from him. I know it is necessary and I know that it is right. But I also know that it is sad.
But I need to do what is in my best interest and my children's best interest. There will be some changes here - no more summers home with them, trying to figure out how they will get home from school, etc. But we will work through it somehow.
Hi w8ing- No, I don't have my kids this weekend. We must have gotten off track over the holidays. Well, maybe we will eventually figure out a way to do our LBS getaway.
I hope everything works out for you with the new job. I can imagaine how hard it will be for you to make the change. As you know, I do my H's bookkeeping and I have thought about giving it up, but it is difficult for me to cut that tie. Only you ultimately know what is best for your and your daughters...and it seems that you are doing it for all of the right reasons. I hope it brings you the peace of mind that you are looking for.
I'm glad the interview went so well. I think it will be so good for you to be working away from h. You have a sweet FIL, so I'm sure he'll understand your need to make the job change.
w8ing I sense this is probably a good thing for you you are strong we all are and have to be cant help but feel the mlcer is attracted to the lbs who leaves and cuts cords dont knoe why I feel it I have seem my H look around house for me when I went dim they miss us and get scared when we cut the cord just my opinion,dont know if its right peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
We must have gotten off track over the holidays. Well, maybe we will eventually figure out a way to do our LBS getaway.