Just checked in on your sitch. Glad your SIL is there for you. I just found out that my SIL knows, but she hasn't said a single word to me. Aunt stopped by the other day, though, and offered a tremendous show of support, which felt amazingly good.
I don't know if I'd go too overboard on the exposure of the A that some people are recommending. Remember that if you work things out you'll have to face these same people in a different light.
I think it's entirely reasonable for C to claim conflict of interest.
What I've been doing is trying to maintain a balancing act with re: to all the advice I've been reading. The whole thing is extremely difficult and hurts like hell and it's like that for everyone, but I can't see how my sitch is exactly like anyone else's, so need to take some things, leave some things.
I liked Choc's advice on the plan. In my recent convo with my WAW, I said I couldn't offer her the newness and excitement of OM, but we'd had conflicts and worked through them and she hasn't experienced that yet with OM. I could offer her stability and support and she doesn't know what to expect with anyone else. When it was framed in the right context, WAW responded pretty well to that. What's the choice, live alone and return to the dating scene only to find out she made a big mistake?
I'm no expert, just trying to find my way through the rollercoaster-maze. lodo
