Well...Sat morning he rang to let me know that he talked with his g/f and they agreed they were taking things too quickly and they were going to back off for a while. I expressed disappointment that it wasn't a complete breakup and he responded by saying "baby steps, LT". I guess it's something, but I did make sure he understood that that wasn't enough for me to resume being intimate with him again.
He was then hurt that I wouldn't invite him and d6 to come along to a party in the afternoon. I tried saying that I get 24 hours off per fortnight when I don't have to worry about d because she is with him and that I wanted the time alone to spend with my friends. He felt that we should be spending family time together. Due to another couple of things happening, me trying to make things better, just made things worse and now he's p!ssed with me again cos during a phone call last night a guy who doesn't know the full situation (he thought we were truly broken up) yelled to to tell 'my ex to get off the phone!'. My h wanted me to tell him to f off and mind his own business. I didn't tell him that but I did explain to him that we were trying to work things out and the guy apologised. Man...why can't I shut up...why can't I just be satisfied with my own thoughts and opinions and trust my own judgement. Why do I feel the need to talk to friends about it to hear different opinions? I think I have talked to too many ppl and my h will have a hard row to hoe (to quote SallyM) to have my friends accept him with open arms.
