Ingrid,

Thanks for checking on me. Things are pretty much the same for me which is why I don't post too much on my own thread. Smooches for asking.

ebl,

It's not so much that I'm at ease with my sitch, I'm just trying to be patient and work one myself. There's plenty for me to do there. My H and I still share the same bed (no contact though) and I honestly don't know if that makes it easier or harder. I just try to play the hand I'm dealt.

I have lots of days when I don't know what to do/expect next. What I've worked at learning/doing is to handle what is on my plate so to speak. If he hasn't "put it out there", I don't assume. I don't assume what he's doing, who he's with anything. Ok, mostly I don think about it. When I do I get out my trusty rubber band and snap away. I also use physical activites and meditation to help me get out of my funks.

I understand completely about taking classes. It's been a year and I'm able to concentrate enough to do that. In fact in the convo H and I had re: his moving out plans, he mentioned my going back to school and I said that the reason I hadn't taken classes before was that I wasn't in a place mentally to do that.

Pole dancing is a great workout (depending on the teacher I'm sure). The site I used to find classes has been temporarily discontinued (exceeded bandwidth). I'll keep my eyes peeled for it coimg back up and post it. Belly dancing is great too. You think like I do I see. \:\) If you can't find any classes locally try the "Godess Workout" on dvd. I also check things out at the library.

Keep in mind that my H dropped the bomb a year ago, so I may just be further along. It takes time. It sucks, but there's nothing we can do to hurry it up. Our D's (12 & 15) are IMO what keeps him home. I try to look at this as he's just here helping me to raise them. Also b/c of my personal thoughts about when and if (if there is a D) I'll date. Having come to a conclusion there really helps me.

Alot of prattle. I hope some of it made sense.