How do I begin piecing??

[MichelleLT]

I definitely sympathize with the doormat feeling. I feel like I have been letting H eat cake a bit with the OW situation. But, as author Susan Page says, do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? You were happy before or you wouldn't be fighting so darn hard for your M.

I think he is doing some predictable yo-yoing. I've seen a lot of WAS' on this board who make overtures and then withdraw. Combined with the fact that he obviously was feeling some connection to you through ML, he sounds scared $h!tless. Perhaps you can find a way to reassure him that you don't have so many hopes and that your expectations are still low. Somehow, he is either making up his own expectations or picking up on yours - that now that he's professed intent to work on M, things should go back to normal. He sounds terrified that things will go back to how they were.

In your position, I would definitely be worried about ML as well. My H definitely feels connected through physical contact - in fact, I'd say it's his primary LL along with words of affirmation (he denies the second, and says first is his only LL). Maybe you can find a way to make it appear less R/M like and more just plain sexual?