Hi Brita, and appleroad... I'm confused guys! I've been reading your thread Brita, as your H as alot of similarities with my BF, who moved out today into his own apartment :-(
I too was of the opinion that my BF may be in MLC, or just have emotional probs (good progress that your H opened up to you enough to admit that to you! My BF is also crying out for counselling, but much like your H, would probs not go). And so like you, I was trying to do what I thought was best, and not chase or contact him, but as you say, "leave him to miss me".
Like you, I thought we were supposed to leave them to "stew" and sit with their decision and come to their own realisations that maybe its not the R thats the source of their unhappiness?
But Appleroad...you are saying that you dont subscribe to this approach? Should we in fact be reaching out to our partners?
I dont know about you Brita, but I am worried about my BF, he seemed very depressed today and ended up in tears. Makes me want to reach out and contact him, but I thought that was against DB principles? My BF also told me a few months ago that he didnt miss me. Today he looked less angry/frustrated and more emotional. So like you, I'm also conflicted...
Whats the best thing to do !!?? Sorry I cant offer advice! I am just interested in the advice you are being given and can only empathise with your confusion as to how to proceed...
