How do I begin piecing??

[MichelleLT]

I can totally understand how exhausting all the drama is and how tired you are of being the one doing all the R work.

I think the moral of the story is don't bring up R talk for a while yet. If you want to keep going, you need to think about the things you were doing while he was gone that you have stopped doing since he moved. Whatever he is saying, his backpedaling from filing for D and admitting he may want to work on the R are very big signs that your DBing was working - both at getting his attention and at making you happy.