Please help me!! My wife wants out!

[steve477]

Man Up, thats the order of the day. I am still waiting for the DR book to arrive which I suppose will tell me a few things I am asking here. I dont want it to seem like I am avoiding her or giving her the hard shoulder, especailly now when she is pregnant. She has always been a bit delicate, and some of these pregnancy things are knocking her for 6. She spent the best part of the last 2 days in bed. Is it ok for me to be an attentive husband, or is that pushing? She asks for my help in making the dinner, but at the end of the night she completly blanks me when we go to our separate rooms. No goodnight or anything, and when I go into her (used to be our) room to get my clothes or whatever then I get accused of pushing and snooping (I know that she is going to email him).
So when she is tired or sick, she needs me, and when she isnt she doesnt want me around. Am I supposed to have a blanket no interferance rule or am I supposed to be there sometimes and disappear other times. She wants this separation I think, but I also think in her condition she wont be able to run her job and run her home by herself. (Of course I havent mentioned that gem, need to wait until I am sure she wants to move out)
I asked her if she would give our marriage another chance... she said she doesnt know. I take that as a positive, because it is not a definate no at the moment....so if I `Man Up` hopefully things will be better.I have about 2 months I think, maybe a bit less. Alot can happen in that time, just need to make sure that it is a positive change.
Do you recommend getting out the house? At the moment to keep out of her space, I spend alot of time reading in my room. I wonder if I should just go out to a starbucks or something to read? I was out at the football match today, and I know she was in touch with the OM while I am gone, so part of me doesnt want to give her the time alone in the house to get in touch with him....and the rational side of me tells me to get out!

Thank you very much Lanzo, I need someone to tell me in no uncertain terms what I am doing is wrong or right. My friends i talk to about this, just say about things my W should be doing, like breaking contact and other such stuff that I cant control. So please feel free to hit me with whatever you think! It will help!

Any hints on `Man Up`ing would be appreciated from those that had to do the same. I guess its gonna involve more than buying more tools, eating more steak and drinking more beer!! I havent had a drink since Jan 3rd (which again I know is a short time), as I figured a clear head is best at this time!!