respond or stay still?

[heartbreak2]

well he called d this morning and told her that he found out on thursday and flew up there so he could be the one to tell his sister she is going to die.
Now this is odd.

he told d some things and one of them that struck me as total MLC was .. SIL was talking about having to clean up hte house and get things in order for her son(21) and the talked about her funeral. Now this is not what someone who just learned they are going die usually does with in a few hrs.

so H's comment was .. "You have 3-12 months to do this pick anywhere on the map and I will take you there"
Now many my disagree but I see this as a MLC thing.... do all th stuff before you die thing.

is she going to remember this when she is dead NO

I thought today what would I do if it was me.
gosh traveling was the last thing. I would do all I could to make happy memories for my children and mom and sister.
I would want all of them to remember me as one who never gave up and enjoyed life til the end.

yes I would make sure financially everything was good for my kids and sister and mom and they would know where things are and how to get them.

but for some reason traveling and seeing things just doesn't fit in my plans.

well..
tonight before d left I asked her if H really told her he did not want to talk to me. she said.. he told me he appreciated your messages but doesn't want to talk about the 2 of you right now.
?? wait...?? I sent him a msg to give his dad a hug and one fore him and that asked if he was ok...?

I believe she is lying again... she has driven a wedge between H and I since the week he came home last yr. she moved her room to the guest room for she refused to sleep at our end of the house.
I think she has told him things to keep him away. I honestly believe she has sabotaged any chance of him coming back several times.

I will let it go..

tonight I will send a simple txt telling him to tell his sister I am praying for her and her H and son.

that is it nothing else.

I will not expect a response. Part of me thinks that he has OW with him.

Now I do know he told them about me getting a new puppy for d said her cousin new about it and H told him.
that I found odd... whey would he tell them about my dog?
Oh wait... he told d that the puppy was cute and he liked it.
didn't tell me that.

I am feeling less and less close to him right now.
like if he has OW with him right now during this family crisis then he has bought himself his D and it will happen sooner than he thinks.

I am bitter right now and I can't figure out why