H does now text out of my sight and the kid's sight, doing so in his car or in bathrooms, etc.(We were at a restaurant last weekend and he forgot to lock the bathroom door and someone opened it and my H was texting the OW when they opened the door!), and has been doing that for about 2 weeks unless I walk up on him unannounced and then he does try to end it quickly so he has tried to do it out of my sight. I assume maybe his therapist or finally a friend he talked to probably made him see my side of that or for whatever reason he did stop that behavior. So that is a major relief!!!!
So that's why I say he texts to her on the porch when we are not there, and his probable rush back to the porch where he has been stripping paint. I really don't have a problem with him doing that as that is outside the house & I'm not there. I just think that his behavior to rush back to his texting area there is just really pathetic, addictive behavior though and not even being able to enjoy 5 or 10 minutes with his daughter away from being able to text the OW is so sad. I guess he can't see that at all though!!! And honestly, I don't believe I could stop him from texting her at all. He is totally an addict, just stopping from texting her for those 10 minutes I think practically killed the guy! Very, very sad...
I would hope in time, his obsession with her would lessen, and he would not feel the need to be with her and text her 24/7???? Or one of them would want to get a life or something??? The wild thing is the OW is married with kids and you would think with having a husband and kids it would be tough for her to be constantly texting and meeting with H as well? I feel sorry for her poor children that is for sure. Hopefully they have a good dad or grandmother or something that is paying attention to them now (because I know their mother is busy with my H 40+ hours a week!)
I asked him if he was going to go to church tomorrow with the family since he hasn't the last month or so and he said he is thinking about it. I asked him if he is still going to AA, which I am afraid he is not, and he said he is, but I don't know about that (H is not always honest, esp. not lately I don't think). I told him it would be a shame if he lost his sobriety too. H didn't say anything. Karen43
