Hope I didn't come across too harsh but there you are, it's always difficult to get the right tone in written text.
OK, at the moment your W has her head in the clouds with OM. If you obsess about her, if you obsess about him, you only result in pushing them together. You are going to need to focus on you. You will hear that over and over again on this board.. The reason being firstly you will pique W curiosity and turn her attention away from OM, and eventually you will draw her to you. So read other posts to get ideas on how to focus on you.
If I hazard a guess at your sitch I think your W is looking for you to develop some kind of maturity and become the man that she is looking for, if she doesn't find it in you then she'll look elsewhere.
You have time cos you are still in the same house, so Steve it's time to "Man Up" and become that man.
Lan
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On a positive note, she did say that she may be able to find me attractive again in the future,
Shes giving you a clue here.
Me:50 W: 49 T:20yrs M: 14 yrs D:11 2005 PA 2006: EA (2003 : 2007) 2007: April ILYBNILWY Aug PA, Sept Separate 2008: Feb Piecing 2009 Limbo 2011: Separated (same house) 2013: Divorcing
