I did experiment not initiating ANY phone calls or meetings with W for the last week and I kept to it. W called or attempted to call several times this week. I got back each time but not always immediately.
She hasn't called the last 2-3 days and hasn't initiated a meeting. The next time I can meet her would be around lunch time Monday or Tuesday when she has the day off and the kids are at school. What if she does not initiate a meeting next week or even call during the weekend? Do I initiate a meeting on some pretext?
I want to keep up the momentum I'd built up with meeting her once a week but I do not want to squander the DB capital I've built up of "validating" and "detaching". I don't want to go back to "darkness" but I want to engage W on a regular basis without being "pursuing". So what do I do?
Me-48, W-38 M14, D11, S7 W filed D 01/07 W had to move out 06/07 Current Thread
