Thanks for the advice, Sorry it seems I was obsessing about sex, it was just important to us that was all. I didnt mean to be insensitive about the 3weeks remark, I know 3 weeks is not that long. I have the book on order. I am being the best I can. I was trying to help her this morning as she was not feeling to good, I made breakfast, even fed her a bit. She actually said `thank you darling` her pet name for me, which she hasnt used for a while. She then realised and apologised for using it. Oh well... The OM sitch is strange, as I mentioned he is trying to sort it out with his own wife but is still in touch with my W. Not very fair to his family but there you go. He has already told my W that he `cant give her what she wants` ie kids, relationship whatever, I think because he doesnt want to lose contact with his own son, which he surely will to some degree if he leaves his wife for mine. My W is aware of this, she knows she cant have him, but some small part is hoping so I think. I put my wife to bed last night because she wasnt very well, I brought her a dink and a snack, and I asked if she wanted me to put her cellphone on charge, which she said yes so I did. When the screen light turned on I saw she had a message waiting from HIM. I didnt read it because she was there, I just passed her the phone and said you have a message from ****> She took the phone quickly and told me I shouldnt touch her phone. She said that the message was nothing special and I shouldnt touch it because she doesnt want me to be upset by reading it. Is it bad that I want to read it? Shouldnt I? On a positive note, she did say that she may be able to find me attractive again in the future, probably when I am dating someone else. I take that as a positive anyway. I am trying to give her space, but she say that the fact that I am still in the house with her is a problem even though different rooms. It sometimes seems that she says things to get a rise out of me.
I will keep trying, I dont want to lose her.
Me 27 W 30 M 2yrs/ T 5yrs Expecting our first child Sept 08 warning bomb (has feelings for someone) 21/12/08 I found out about OM (by snooping) 14/1/08 Living together.
