Hi fb2! I saw your note on Ian's thread and thought I should respond here.
From what I can see, Newcomers it the right place for you. I say this, because I can see that you are still struggling with the basic premises of DBing. Namely, starting with a beginner's mind.
By this I mean that you seem to have skipped right over the hard stuff and just want a resolution...NOW!
While I understand this emotion, you are completely missing the point!
What is the point then??????
Good question, if I don't say so myself. The point is that we all got to this point in our lives because something was missing. For many of us, it was not directly related to our S's, but rather something internal. You now have an opportunity to work on yourself and your R with your kids...to make yourself the best fb2 that you can be...to make yourself happy!
The only way that this is going to happen is if you completely detach from your wife's issues and life and FOCUS ON YOU.
As far as GAL, this does not take money, just a bit of creativity. Not sure where you live, but when the weather is good, going to a local hike/bike trail for jogging/people watching is always good. Strike up conversations with people everywhere. Practice your listening skills (always helpful with your W or with any other love interest in the future!). As far as time, what is more important than living your life? Cut out everything else!
Hope this helps a bit.
Take care, SD
Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
