Grand Finale

[Rob1231]

Hi Jeff, Catching up with your thread for the first time in quite a while... so sorry you're at this point. I think you really nailed it when you said:

She is like so many of the other walk-aways here. They seem to NEED to be "friends" so they don't have to face facts that their choices hurt another person - a person they once loved, or at least said they did. I was less than a perfect husband but no way did I "earn" the last two years. If we become "friends" she will even believe that this was a "joint" decision.

There's a lot of guilt in her right now - and, sucks to say it, even now there is probably still a lot of self-doubt. Sure, she'll tell herself that she made the right decision, that she was 100% sure, and she'll say the same thing to you. But I doubt that in any sitch, regardless of whether it ends here or in Piecing, things are so black and white. There's always some tiny niggling doubt, Did I do the right thing? That doesn't mean it's going to change - just that it ain't so simple as we all would like to believe sometimes.

One other bit I wanted to comment upon:

... a person they once loved, or at least said they did.

I think she did love you, Jeff. Maybe I'm hopelessly romantic or deluded, but I don't buy into the history rewriting that the WAS's do. Sure, things change, and people change, but that doesn't eliminate the truth of what was there once. And take heart from that - you were truly loved, once. And that proves to me, it can happen again.

Strength and honor, Jeff. You are a terrific, kind, insightful guy. Things will start looking up for you again, I have no doubt of it!