Two days ago; in response to a "dear, john" type letter she handed me, three weeks ago.
By the way, I should say, we had 4 months of MC, and these issues that she raised in her letter are not new. I accepted my part then, and committed to working on them.
It's partly a re-do of that discussion, except this time I am saying "I'm letting you go." I am happy to be having this discussion with her, even if it is not in person and in super slo mo. Having the conv through printed letters may actually be helpful, because it reduces the chances for over-reacting or reacting in the heat of the moment.
here's more:
Quote:
I held on so tightly, holding you back, frightening you. I am so sorry. I regret some of my behavior, but I do not regret the effort and passion I put into keeping our family together. I am sorry that I didn’t want to allow you to chart your own course. I’ve been thinking. Slowly. Quietly. And what I found is: Deep down I really want you to be happy. And if you are not happy staying with me, ok. I still want you to be happy, with whatever course you choose for yourself. I want that very much. I know you’ll be happy. I’m getting out of the way.
